Sunday, December 31, 2006
And then there's some folks who are like...well..*sweatdrop* well, they were called the propornstitution tag team, but then again, let's be nice here. I have decided to call people's names so that one can know truly whether I am right or wrong. Amber, belledame and veronica. In this instance you have worked well to protect the transpeople from the hateful words of Lucky. However, I charge you to not seem like people who have personal axes to grind and to let go of any angers or grudges you may have for the new year. Start fresh all you.
Saturday, December 30, 2006
Brownfemi has a new post. She tries to be helpful and think about liberating people. Shannon will now commence with the airing of grievances. I think we should center the liberation of transpeople in our remaining discussions, and not put in the center our own personal grievances about how this one lady did this before I was born and so and so isn't my friend anymore and this lady doesn't like my hobby. Of course this probably isn't possible, but hey, it was just a thought.
Also, JackGoff offended people. That's why I don't drink. I can offend everyone while sober.
Friday, December 29, 2006
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Just because lady wanted to be tied up before doesn't mean she's cool with anal stimulation. Not a package deal here. Even if she had wanted anal stimulation before, she might not want it again. Use good sense here people. Sex isn't some no holds barred playground where dudes can go and do whatever they want.
Yea, one day I'm going to have a post that makes sense. But uh..bdsm snark poly snark and quantum fetish mechanics. I hope this offering of links will make everyone happy.
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Also, a radical feminist talks about transfolk.
It's not ingrained into our culture that a woman's got the right to say, hey, guess what? blowjobs are gross, and I don't like them. Heck, I think they might be oppressive too! Nope. Women got to toe the line there.
Thanks, Shannon. I had no idea it had gotten so insane; I quit reading
that thread days ago, which was clearly a mistake. But I have resumed
monitoring it and will nuke anything further that gets too wack.
I learned an important lesson. If someone on a big blog is scaring the children and horses, email the maintainer.
Now, we mostly have a broad consensus that her commenters have crossed the line with the transhate and all that. But an issue that leads to what I call feminist concern trolling is that nobody can figure out whether the powers are out of balance and what is the source of the out of balance powers is. Are evil feminists, radical or not, ruining the lives of women? Is it the fault of men who benefit from male privilege while we have to go around washing plates all the time? Is it because we don't read the Bible enough?! Yea, we're never going to agree whether we all have equal power or whether some people have more power than others.
taco at iblamethepatriarchy dot com Her commenters have gotten out of hand with the transhating comments, and I think we should tell her to reign it in- perhaps ban the commenters or tell everyone that it's not right to hate transpeople. Now now, let's not be too rigid about our gender categories here- transwomen are not invading our space as women. There's room for different kinds of women, etc. I'm not an expert on transpolitics, but now let's not hate on them.
Hey! I remembered that I was still co opting the term radical feminist! Therefore, now I declare a unilaterial rule change. Being picky about who is a woman is oppressing all women. We don't want women who are feminine or hetro or white to be declared the only women, so let's not be so picky about people's genitalia. It's near the start of a new year you know.
Monday, December 25, 2006
Sunday, December 24, 2006
1) Personality- It almost physically hurts for me to be nice to anyone. Ever.
2)Theory of Change- Either you want to change or you don't. You can't make somebody want to be a decent human being.
3)Theory of Politics and Life- I think we're influenced by a whole lot more things than we think we are- in fact, the love of pink ponies in girls is not caused by XX chromosomes- but is in fact caused by other factors. I am giving my little girl cousin a purple pony toy. The horrid male twins, Heckle and Jeckle, have a whole lot of trucks and shit. Also, even at the age of 2 or so, they can in fact understand what is said by adults and on TV!
But I also think we have a lot more power to change things than other people think we do. I don't think just begging the folks in power to please let us have rights, look, we did almost everything you wanted us to is the only path to change. We can also work hard within ourselves to encourage having self esteem, defining power in terms of what you can do for yourself and have traits you have rather than currying the favor of a powerful person, and work really hard to fill needs in our community and around the world.
4)My theory of reality: No large group of people will ever agree on what is ok to make fun of and what isn't. Now, there may be broad consensuses- like it's not cool to say c*nt or the n word, but those are nuclear bombs. I mean the smaller artillery in the war of words. Now, I may think calling a lady a stupid moo for walking down the street is horrible, and how can you say that, but don't really care if you call Rosie O'Donnell a bitch.
I don't think we can all agree on which groups are off limits to snark? Other feminists? Women as a whole?(pretty hard for me, because Dawn Eden exists and she's a woman)? And how would we define woman anyway? Anyone who has ever been one? Anyone with XX chromosomes? Anyone who presents in a feminine manner? Yea, I can see that getting real messy real soon.
So I can't really scold anyone to be snark free, or talk about how snark is ruining the movement, as my sacred cows aren't other people's sacred cows.
After Christmas, part 2- why being a feminist concern troll sucks will be out.
Saturday, December 23, 2006
That's a double standard I often see. Men and anti feminists are entitled to any action or reaction they see fit, but feminists must tiptoe around scared to have any ideas or actions because what if the menz don't like it? I don't see conservatives afraid to let the fact that they think soy makes you gay or that Muslims all want to kill us in our sleep make them afraid to tell everyone their crazy ass mess. Heck, on national TV programs, they are unafraid to ask Muslims about whether they really are friends of America.
But on blogs that like two people read, we're supposed to be tiptoeing around, because you know, women getting fed up and deciding to change things doesn't work. Only begging people who could care less about our freedom has a chance of working. Balderdash, I say.
Ovaries out, women!* And kick some tail!
*Men are also allowed to kick ass for feminism, but it's rarely men being told that they are too scary for having an opinion.
Friday, December 22, 2006
1)Our internal organs will be declared ugly and unacceptable until we 'groom' them.
2)The children of the parents I saw standing in the line for a Wii today will have life long friendships.
3)My family will explode with drama
4)The Wii will dominate over the PS3.
5)The crafts explosion will continue to mature.
6)White people will bring old forms of racism back into fashion.
7)There will be a backlash against enforced femininity by feminists
8)Manga will continue to be a huge huge market
9)Global warming will fuck up our economy.
10)Webcomics Nation Free will be a force to be reckoned with.
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was hot like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was a freak like me
Dont cha, dont cha
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was raw like me
Dont cha wish your girlfriend was fun like me
Dont cha, dont cha
Instead of sexual pleasure being centered as something that a woman does for herself, it's being used as a way to compete with another woman. Also, sexual kinkiness here is seen as a method of competiting with other women. That's empowerfulness being sold to our kids here. Because seriously, what adult would listen to this fucking pap?
I think that my next post will be predictions about the future!
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Hey, a male attention whore picture.(NSFW: male nudity from the back) Attention whores are most often female, as men are socialized to get attention by being giant assholes, and women are socialized to get attention by showing their body parts to people.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Oh yea, and aunt B doesn't realize the futility of talking to white people about race. She also breaks the taboo against feeling bad I think. Yesterday I felt bad about speeding. I vowed never to speed again. Nothing bad happened as a result.
White people, this sort of behavior is not to be supported. Don't do it, and tell your friends not to do it as well. I don't care what folks say- calling folks the n word and refering to lynchings continues to be not ok behavior.
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Also: great icon:
Monday, December 18, 2006
1)Have some self esteem. Never let some guy try to sweet talk you into having sex without a condom. Condomless sex can make a mere healthy sowing of the oats into medical bills and craziness. Don't do it! Also, you don't have to go for the first guy who comes along- if he's a jerk, dump him.
2)Signs of being a jerk: These aren't all of them, but these are some good signs. 1)He tries to shame you into doing stuff. If all the other girls do it, he can get one of them to. 2)He complains about your body. If he thinks you're too fat, too thin, or too hairy, he can go wank off to pictures of the perfect woman. Don't give him any. 3)He thinks that smacking you around is a good pastime. 4)He's always sleeping with dead drunk women. 5)Every single person he's been in a relationship with in the past is a crazy b*tch or a liar.
2)Know what you want. Do you just want meaningless sex or do you want a real relationship? Trying to get a guy who just wants a few thrills into a real relationship or trying to get the sort of guy who wants a real relationship just to give you the sausage is a recipe for disaster.
3)Good sense is imperative: Always know where you can get emergency contraception, always carry a condom, and it's best to use two forms of birth control, with one being a condom to prevent disease. Also, don't get super drunk. Never funnel alcohol, ladies. You could die. Also on that health tip, maybe you want to look into the cervical cancer vaccine?
4)Never date a rapist: If he's accused of date rape, stay clear! You may hear the girl is a slut, blah blah, but it's a red flag- either he is a rapist or else well..let's just say that it's likely he's a rapist, ok?
5)Dump that MF-er already- You don't have to put up with being yelled at, being stood up, having a guy flirt with tons of other chicks, guys who rate your blowjobs, or whatever. Dump him.
6)You don't have to do anything but stay (insert your skin color here) and die: If you're feeling kinda ehhh about something but think you have to do it because of other people, say fuck that! I don't have to do shit!
7)Your most important task is to work on you. Don't be babysitting some man or chasing after some player. Work on yourself instead.
Extra tips: Don't move to a strange city with a guy you've only met once or twice or have known for less than 2 years. Just don't do it!
Sunday, December 17, 2006
It's all so insulting to one's intelligence.
Clearly you haven't considered, since you're not as smart as me (pick one):
A) Race is a social construct, therefore racism does not exist! DUR!!!
B) Racism might work differently in different countries, therefore white people are not TEH RACIST ONES!!!11
C) Everybody's a little bit racist, and human beings love to hate each other, therefore if you eliminate racism, BIG TOED PEOPLE WILL BE SENT TO CONCENTRATION CAMPS!!!1
D) The aim of anti-racism is clearly to make white people feel bad!!!!! Because you think will eliminate racism somehow!!!11 So you're stupid!!! No, YOU!11
E) WHITE PRIVILEGE?!?! WHERE'S MY PARADE, DIPPED IN CHOCOLATE AND COVERED IN DIAMONDS?!?! ETC!11?!
F) It's just an academic definition, therefore it's probably inapplicable to daily life. Because I say so. ALL HAIL!!11!
G) All of the above.
I'm taking a nap.
Saturday, December 16, 2006
Debunking White: Huge Trainwreck. I'm not sure what to think. I'm not seeing why it's so bad to call Rosie O'Donnell a bitch..
*eyebrow twitch* More about your pubic hair. ...Laser hair removal? Yea...that sounds like a sensible thing to do to your fucking delicate area.
Friday, December 15, 2006
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Why is the n word bleeped out but not the s word?
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
Oh yea, and us female gamers need to be beautiful thanks to Pandagon commentor shelly:
Shelley Dec 12th, 2006 at 10:33 am
Yeah, I have to echo PonyGirl. I’ve been a lifelong gamer (beginning with the D&D boardgame in 3rd grade), and it’s an amazing release to use your computer to kill stuff in various ways. There’s a great online community so that one is not isolated, and there’s the spurts of blood when I’m using my World of Warcraft (or, previously Everquest, Star Wars Galaxies, Eve, and Earth and Beyond) character to slice and dice. That’s not to say I haven’t been sucked in by the various card & PC games that aren’t necessarily multiplayer. Civ Rawks. (And you can play with others if you choose.)
When girls game, we don’t think about anything but the GAME. We don’t need for G4 or anyone else to pound us with images of stereotypical bimbos just because they don’t realize their market includes beautiful YET ALSO highly inventive and intelligent women versus testosterone-laden frat boys (who SUCK at gaming, by the way.)
Screw G4 and the anti-women-as-people sentiment. I’ll keep on doing what I’ve always done, which is to game with a style that a man could never achieve, and I won’t support anyone who isn’t smart enough to cater to me as well as the unwashed, gaming, mountain-dew drinking, male demographic G4 seems to prefer.
Because girl gamers- we're all hot! No, we're not. We're all women, and many of us don't live up to beauty standards. Also, many female gamers are kids as well. Seriously, what does beauty have to do with the price of tea in China?
Monday, December 11, 2006
Also, this reminded me of how I was reading Decades of Fashion and saw Jane Mansfield flashing her bra and was like hey! it's the equvalent of the Britney crotch shot for the 50s! But yea, so not classy. Also my mom says floozy- she said my socks(pictured here) are for fast floozies.
Also, sex worker stabs john in condom fight. I say the john is at fault here. You don't slap a woman.
Also, I don't support women's choices to eat only 1000 calories a day and exercise for an hour. Because seriously, how will you get the energy to exercise while eating that little? Just switch out less healthy foods for more healthy foods and get some exercise. You might not end up OMG thin! but you'll be healthier, and hopefully get enough self esteem to dump that asshole boyfriend.
Sunday, December 10, 2006
I think I should have a recurring feature: I don't support women's choices. This time it's shut up, nobody cares about your moon time. When you save menstural blood in a jar, bacteria will grow in it and yes, it'll start to smell. Duh.
LJ Abuse is full of crap.
There's this huge discussion about Jews and Israel at Brownfemi's. I remembered that I didn't post this Outlook I stumbled on. It had Israeli and Palestian teenagers arguing. Well, here it is.
Saturday, December 09, 2006
Also, a public dot race snark post for your edification.
Aunt B is like "Yea, labiaplasty...this is where I draw the line". Oh yea, and according to some commenters there, she's the real oppressor for not believing in women's choices. Because merely having a va jay jay(ok, some women don't, but my mind is weak) makes your choices always good and above criticism. The strange thing is that I never see this sort of reasoning applied to women of color. B talks about FGM and wonders what's the difference between the two practices.
I think the difference is that these folks haven't grown up where FGM was the accepted practice. If they had, they'd be talking about how FGM makes a woman cleaner, and how they just like the look of their vaginas without a clit and how come you can't respect their choices,etc. But when it's someone else's culture, it's easy to say "that's messed up" because you're looking from the outside in. There's also a bit in the mix about the cultural idea we have in the US that we must go and save the African women from their oppressive men, but that American women are totally free and liberated.
The one strike policy is announced.
White people think the n word isn't hate speech. Oh yea, the post is locked, but magentathompson apparently was banned for photoshopping some picture of this trashy ass bitch. That's why any real person of color knows that anyone can be racist shit is bullshit. White people can call us racial slurs for six months without stop, and nobody cares. But make some dumbass white bitch cry and it's all OMG. OK, I'm implementing a new rule here. Any white ass bitch who starts crying about how someone told her she wasn't a special snowflake? Well, all be advised that I don't fucking care. Shut your mouth and stop whining. If you're a chronological adult, you will be treated that way, white women.
Blacks have pride in their strength and survival.
Gay white men let down the cause by performing in blackface.
Disabled child is being denied blankets.
Thursday, December 07, 2006
But with liberalism, anyone can improve if they do the right thing. If I stop making excuses for why I am special and the rules of reality don't apply to me, I can make a real change in my life and the lives of others. Also, I'm confused about what's so bad about shame? I feel ashamed if I don't 'tithe'(give 10% to charity), but that means that I have something that spurs me to do better and be a better person. To me, guilt is what you feel if you do not do your responsibility to yourself, and shame is what you feel when you don't do your responsibility to others. If someone can shame you, the truth is maybe you in yourself feel that you have not done what you need to do.
Then again, why am I even talking? These are the same people who think bigotry is a black single mom getting a scholarship.
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
The method of communication was totally Southernania, but I don't know about the message. Hmm...
Also, I missed this wank on girl gamer.
Yes, I think middle aged women are really out of touch as far as sexual expectations are. They think that we actually suffer from sexual repression! Ha ha ha. Back in my college days(I graduated in May), we had fuck buddies(yea, many girls are relegated to fuck buddies) rating girl's blowjobs, guys complaining about women with hairy crotches, frat boys video taping girls, guys complaining if you had sense enough to not want to fuck within the first week of meeting, disrespectful guys who think that a girl's got a death wish and wants to fuck condomless, and tons of hookup culture. When I tivo Soul Food, at 1 am, the end is cut off by dumbass Girls Gone Wild commercials. If this is sexual 'liberation', I want out! But the problem is that you can't opt out. There's no get out of patriarchy free card, no magical boundary you can go into where you don't have to deal with the culture.
Tuesday, December 05, 2006
Second, why do they put the Victoria's Secret fashion show on TV?
In other news, white feminist Echinde is worried about school desegregation. I'm pretty depressed about the whole thing actually.
.......on the news, I think I saw Snoop Dogg captioned as 'concerned rapper'. The world is coming to an end?
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They have decided to move forward with an independent review. The
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On a happier note- from 10 am to 7 pm on December 6th, get free emergency contraception from the Planned Parenthood on 1407 Union Avenue(Memphis area).
Also, I'm full of hate for 'child model' sites and glad the assholes got busted. Also, a sicko who thinks it's ok to coerce 13 year olds into explict photos was nabbed.
Monday, December 04, 2006
hello soulfood fans: we need to take action if we want paramount to release the remaining seasons of soulfood. it's been over 6 years since season one released on dvd. we the fans want seasons 2, 3, 4, & 5 on dvd. so, here is what i need you all to do, email and call paramount studio and demand that they release all the seasons of soulfood. paramount studio phone: 323-956-4488 and 323-956-5000 email: firstname.lastname@example.org if you don't get an answer, leave a detailed message. after, they receive enough messages, they will know that we are serious.
....how much do you bet me that someone on this thread starts whining that Amanda called her not a feminist? I think someone should have to pay me a hundred bucks if the original author of that bizarre screed comes in and starts whining.
Remember to support black TV series and black movies that aren't all about shucking and jiving.
Hey, yesterday at a funeral, Pastor Brooks said that people should feed the poor and put clothes on the backs of the needy. So a religious guy said you should give your money to the poor. So don't give money to rip off artists who are only enjoying earthly things- give it to those who need it.
*charities like these and more at the network for good! Heck, give to more than one at one time.
Sunday, December 03, 2006
Saturday, December 02, 2006
Friday, December 01, 2006
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Much like being the Traditionally Geeky Female Gamer is a double-edged sword — you get cred as being “one of the boys”, but in a way that entails the rejection of the feminine — so too is the Girly-Girl Gamer. In this case, it hinges on how the feminine is seen to be included into the gaming community.
I'm not seeing the downside to rejecting the feminine, which in esscence is denying yourself to become only the sum of your looks instead of what you do. If I wanted to be a pretty decoration to get some man hot, I'd do that, Not all woman want to be seen as objects. Many want to be seen as subjects. If a woman wants to be seen as an object, fine, but it's not a universal desire of women.
While often praised to their faces, in other areas of the gaming community women who post their pictures get labelled “attention whores” and get told that they are one of the reasons why female gamers don’t get taken seriously.
That is because that sort of thing does make it hard to take anyone seriously. Women are often told that behavior that is in esscence, self defeating, is what they should do- put the priority on looks over smarts, think that a man can/should take care of you, avoid developing one's self as a person because that's not feminine. The work for feminists to do is for us to recognize when the societal message really is bollox.
I don’t want to spend too much time on this subject, as I think it’s better suited for the next part of my series, but suffice it to say, “fakers” are classified as women, usually models, who are faking their interest/knowledge in gaming to get attention/money/whatever. These are the bottom of the barrel and are considered not to have any gamer cred whatsoever. It’s also a classification based solely on these hypothetical women’s looks; it is contingent on the perception that these women entered the gaming community/industry in order to profit off their appearance.
Actually, it's more behavior than looks. If a hot girl says she's a girl gamer and actually shuts up and plays games- no one thinks they are a faker. But if they are constantly talking about how hot they are, and licking PSPs and going on- of course the perception is going to be that they are well, attention whores.
Seriously, what sensible adult person would go and lick an electronic device and then wonder why people don't take them seriously? The problem is that these women have bought into the idea that their looks are the most important thing about them, and that this sort of behavior will make others think well of them, when the obvious reality is that people are a bit more marketing savvy nowadays. So when they see obvious plants like the Frag Dolls or booth babes or women who get columns at IGN not because of any skill they may have but because they are so hot, they are going to raise an eyebrow to women who promote themselves as girl gamers. This of course reflects badly on women who actually do like games, and actually do take more time playing games than posing in our underwear.
I read the LJ community girl gamers. Many of the women posting there could in fact be very hot. Model hot. But the majority know that nobody cares if they wear lipstick to match their DS's(there are pink DS's and I want one) or whether they wear merry widows to game in and confine their posting to actual games and game related talk because it's a gaming community. There are in fact many other communities where if these women want to get attention for their looks, they can be validated in the way they desire.
Just leave my hobby out of it. Just be a model or a sex worker, and stop trying to promote yourself using my hobby,ok?
ETA: I hate this shitty parody commerical.
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Well, now it's a free post. Tekanji wrote a post about girl gamers. Girly girl gamers confuse me. Saying I game, and I'm hot! seems to me like me saying I'm a community agency psychology student and I eat tortilla chips!. And we care because? It seems like instead of just playing games for the love of it, they are playing into the stereotype that women don't have real hobbies or likes or dislikes, but instead do everything they do as a sort of advertising campaign for a man or to get cash. I'm not saying people who are like that are bad people- but it's really hard to take a woman seriously as a gamer or even as an adult when she devotes more time to talking about how she is totally hot! than actually talking about playing games. If you think I'm too mean, regender. How do you think a man who always posted about how he plays video games, but is hot and has a big cock and had a website promoting himself as a 'guy gamer', with little information about games, but much about how attractive he was would be taken seriously?
The next time on Shannon's judgemental hour- we'll be talking about how women are often duped into believing that behavior that no sensible person would consider adult behavior is somehow feminine and attractive.
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Also, 3003 words so far. It's nearly done. I decided to kick back after printing. But then this guy IM'd me and was like look at this! and so I looked. Being old fashioned, I recommend wearing panties in public. It's sad that nowadays seeing a celebrity's vagina has become common place and boring. I may have become Jonathan Frazen, but I'm not joking. I'm really sad!
Monday, November 27, 2006
I'm wondering why people who barely have an idea of what is going on on the other side of the city, let alone the other side of the nation are telling people on the other side of the globe what help they need to ask for. (see the original post)
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Twisty posts again. For the love of god, could you white women get secure about your choice of fucking shoes? Seriously, if you're comfortable with your choice of footwear, someone else not liking it doesn't matter.
Only 310 words into my counselor profile! I'm supposed to have 1250 or so! Also rubber sidewalks. Some more hilarity: *snerk* a watch from Girls Next Door. In other disturbing items, I am on a yahoo list devoted to selling off your old items, and one lady was selling an old child pageant dress. I was like noooo!
Saturday, November 25, 2006
Not related: white science guy PZ Meyers is sick of all this tasering.
*they require us to read them, really!
Thursday, November 23, 2006
ETA: I'm drinking chai style tea. Twisty is busy blaming the colonialist white supremacist patriarchy, and I'm glad she mentioned sweet potato pie, the true type of pie to eat, instead of that heathen pumpkin pie. Only white people eat that nasty ass green bean casserole I'd like to say. We are having sweet potato casserole(the kind w/ nuts on top,etc) for the next few weeks, and we had greens(but my grandma can't cook so she put okra in the middle of the greens mom worked so hard to make!), anyway, all much better than some green bean casserole. I really hate pecan pie, even though it is traditonal. I didn't have any turkey today, just ham, because my grandma cooked a turkey mom gave her and I totally don't trust grandma's turkey.
Another Edit: Now in food related coma. Send postcards to political prisoners,please.
First laws by others:
[Due to the completely understandable strong feelings involved], As any blog discussion about weight continues, the likelihood that the patriarchy will be forgotten in favor of infighting approaches 1.
Tubman's Law: As a feminist thread goes on, the chances of some white woman comparing something to racism, slavery and the like becomes 1(Not kittiekatie's phrasing, but it is her law)
Tekanji's what about the mens law: In any discussion about women, feminism or the like, the probability of someone saying but what about the mens approaches 1.
The Faux Card Cred Law: Anyone disavowing their various prejudices by using the phrase "I'm not anti-_____, I have _____ friends!" or some variant thereof will summarily lose the argument and be subjected to a vicious fishbeating by members of the group in question. Double fishbeatings will be enforced if the "faux-cred card" is utilized more than once in one argument.
Second, laws I believe I made up or modifications of base laws.
The law of the veil- as the time a white feminist's blog has existed goes on, the likelyhood that someone(or the blogger herself) will use the line "OMG, do you want us to wear a burqa" or use the burqa as a visual sign of oppression approaches 1.
The bandwagon law- Everyone ever wants to be called a feminist, even pro life lifestyle Goreans who think that a woman's place is in the home, and that the downfall of civilization has been brought about by feminists who have hairy legs and fuck around too much.
The out damned spot! law- Someone will always say "OMG! someone called me not a feminist" even if noone was talking about that at all. That person will be beaten with a nice large feminist of color anthology like Making Face, Making Soul.
The OMG Oppreshun!!! law- As the percentage of the female population doing a certain beauty ritual goes up, so does the likelyhood that some lady will break her arm patting herself on the back because she stood up to the oppressive feminists who won't let her do whatever beauty ritual 99% of women in her country(OK, it's usually america) do.
Nubian's Law(named after her for no good reason): No matter how racist something that a woman of color blogger has blogged about is, there will be white people commenting that that wasn't racist at all.
The pleasure law: Pleasure will always be defined as a bunch of girly crap.
The Cosmo Girl law: If any jokes, snark or witty turns of phrase are used to attack sexism, someone will complain lest the lack of complete and total seriousness scares off some girl who is in fact perfectly fine with her own lack of political consciousness.
Twisty's rule(also named after a blogger): Billion dollar industries, years of cultural indoctrination, and the way society is structured has nothing on what one blogger says on the internet.
The real women have curves law: Whenever a discussion about eating disorders, dieting or weight occurs, the probability that someone will mention that obesity is a KILLER!!! approaches 1
Faux Cred Card, Feminism Corrallary: If anyone claims to have a get out of the patriarchy free card (i.e. My decisions have nothing to do with the majority culture because I do BDSM/my Milton is a perfect saint/I live in a sealed bubble) will have to wear a sports corset, a hobble skirt, and stiletto heels while running a mile and jumping over railroad tracks.
The first sex law: If some sexual act is mentioned, the possibility of someone talking about their experience of it in graphic detail approaches 1.
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Tuesday, November 21, 2006
And on the other side, anorexia kills a model. Anorexia is a culture bound disorder. This does not make it any better for the victims.
Monday, November 20, 2006
Now, that's just creepy. (here's a whole website devoted to creepiness, and here's a film about creepy crazy child pageants on youtube.) This sort of thing is why I don't hold off on declaring things to be tools of the patriarchy. I mean seriously, I don't expect pageant mothers to read this blog and because I didn't call them tools of the patriarchy, lead a feminist revolution.
Even though women are oppressed, that doesn't stop a great many of them from looking around and saying "hey, I'm pretty happy with stuff the way things are". They aren't being forced to live shallow lives of dressing their kids in dumb outfits that cost too much just to spite the evil strawfeminist * who threatens to outlaw lipstick and blowjobs if they don't sacrifice their daughters to the pageant gods. No, their priority simply isn't the liberation of women. Their priorities are elsewhere. So why try to make a movement for liberation a movement for fun to accommodate these types?
*Maybe my foundations teacher is the strawfeminist. She wears sensible shoes, and by facial expression, I don't think she thinks shopping, but for fun stuff, not boring stuff! is a job.
Sunday, November 19, 2006
Protesters are sexually harrassed in Houston. This story really shows the seedy underbelly of our society. Should we all look for a fund that gives out cellphones w/ cameras and little camcorders to protestors?
Our fun feminist friends may want to call off that google search! The Wii has brought peace and harmony to the world.
Saturday, November 18, 2006
People who live in Houston should collect food for the food drive for the janitors.
Friday, November 17, 2006
Thursday, November 16, 2006
Black people have awesome families. I'm going to spread a rumor that white folks don't even go to their half aunt's baby's funeral. Just to be mean.
Also, dumbasses are lining up to pay some $500 for a PS3. Shit ain't even backwards compatiable! Oh yea, these idiots are being mocked on ebay.
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Also: Don't give your nasty ass crap to the poor. They don't want it. If you give half eaten food to the food pantry, you need to have your ass kicked.
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Monday, November 13, 2006
Tip for this holiday season: don't get carried away with the frenzy over 'hot' toys. Use common sense. If an ebay seller has 100 toys that it is really hard to get, what are the odds of you actually getting that toy? Common sense will save you a lot of grief this Christmas. Not to mention, no kid has to have a certain toy. No one was ever damaged for life because they had to play with a regular old Elmo doll you got off ebay for ten bucks.
1ST KNOW I AM AN OWNED & COLLARD SUBMISSIVE.
I SUBMIT ONLY TO GREENS! ONIONS AND POTATOES MUST KNEEL BEFORE ME OR BE TRAMPLED BY MY MIGHTY CAPSLOCK.
IF YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THAT MEANS YOU HAD BETTER MOVE ON. I JUST MOVED TO PISS HOLE DELAWARE TO SERVE MY MASTER.
She's so very dedicated to this man that she's making herself miserable for him and bitching about it online? What a pillar of devotion and strength.
I ONLY SERVE HIM, IN ANY OTHER RESPECT I AM A MISTRESS.
AND IF I SAY THAT A WHOLE LOT, SOMEDAY EVERYONE WILL BELIEVE IT!
I AM LOOKING FOR A LOCAL GAL PAL TO TALK, HANG WITH...MAYBE MORE. MY ONLY STIPULATIONS ARE INTELLIGENCE, SOME SAME INTERESTS, A WIDE OPEN MIND & A GIRL WHO IS NOT A SLUT. I DON'T THINK I'M BEING TOO PICKY. IF YOU THINK THIS IS YOU DROP ME LINE.
Perhaps this is just me being closed-minded and stereotype-driven, but don't people who join communities dedicated to extreme sexual lifestyles get over the whole high-school "ew, icky, slut!" thing?
Sunday, November 12, 2006
Frowner–I just wanted to clarify, I didn’t mean to be coy–that is, I didn’t mean to do a “you guess why we’re angry, cuz I’m not gonna tell you!” I think I might’ve came off that way–
but yeah, I know it’s hard to work on shit–especially placing yourself within the context of a movement–negotiating where you stand is really difficult some times–I mean, for example, many times, native peoples get really really angry at Mexican/chican@s because we try to claim our indigenous roots–but we don’t do it in a way that is helpful and many times is quite harmful to what native peoples are doing. but yet, do we not have the right to claim our past? is your movement more important than ours? Is your right to exist and have a history your important than our right to exist and have a history?
I think in the case of lipsitck/blow job thing–it’s a very similiar thing. that is what is important to lots of white women, but they don’t have any clue that 1. they have power on this internet thing and 2. there are women of color reading and paying attention (at least temporarily) to what they are doing and saying. so do these women have any obligation at all to cover anything outside of their own interests? Especailly when whenever some blogger of color (especially a woman of color) points something out to them, they immediatly go on the attack mode and start in with “When we fight, the patriarchy WINS, why can’t we just get along, your my sister!!!!” Everybody wants to be our sister when we’re angry, but when we don’t say anything, lipstick and blow jobs are good enough for everybody. you know?
It’s the same thing with the porn situation–porn is the one place where it’s systematically “ok” for white women to be abused–whether it’s symbollically through the action or the workers conditions or whatever. Systemactially, it’s culturally and socially and legally “ok” for white women to be treated as they are in porn. is there any wonder, then, that feminism has centered it’s entire debate around structural violence against women on porn? Is it any wonder, then, that even as women of color scream from the roof tops that violence of the nation/state and economic structures and environmental degredation are reeking havoc on our communities and all white women can talk about is porn porn porn and sucking dick and the patriarchy? It’s one of those closeted underlying quite forms of racism to insist that all evil must stem from porn–especially when you look at how women of color, fat women, disabled women, mother’s etc are generally fetishized within the porn world–such that any type of abuse or violence that may stem from porn against us is yet again, hidden and silenced because most people don’t consider that fat women or women of color or disabled women would be 1. sexualized in the way porn requires or 2. that the way we are sexualized is different and often times much more harmful than the way white thin pretty women are sexualized through traditional porn. you know?
porn, lipstick, blow jobs–all of those thing center white able-bodied, straight women in the context of feminism, and so it’s not so much that I don’t think a discussion on porn is important or necessary, but rather that the way it is discussed is on terms where it’s very often, you’re either with us or against us–and I refuse both positions. I think life is more complicated than that, and any good movement will allow for that complication.
Brownfemi has some good ideas, but I'd like to go off in a completely unrelated direction. The problem I have with white women and lipstick and blowjobs is how they center their feminism around it. It's not just "Well, I have a hobby, and my hobby is wearing lipstick while giving blowjobs, and so now let's all collect cell phones for the women's shelter". It's "Oh noes! Somebody I don't know from three states away doesn't like my fashion choices! How can I ever survive? Isn't feminism about supporting women!?".
The thing is that women are a huge fucking group. We're more than half of the world's population. Not everything a woman does can be supported by every woman. For example, I really hate women who spend their whole public careers complaining about how women who have jobs are bad mothers. Also, women who talk about how girls who have been peed on by grown ass men are just fast are just wrong in my eyes.
Not to mention, there's a huge ass difference between supporting women in important ways, such as noting that no, it's not your fault that that asshole raped you, yes, I'll take care of your kid for you so that you can get an education, and yea, I'll demonstrate so you can get some health care, and supporting women in dumb ways like of course, I think your choice of footwear is great!, I love your pubic hair style!, and whatever you're doing now is perfectly feminist!
The idea that feminism is about your freedom to do exactly what you were going to do anyway is pretty limited. I'll use an ancedote to explain why I think this way. This girl in my class decided to talk about the high cost of manicures nowadays. The truth of the matter is this woman doesn't need a social movement to get a manicure. Her manicure needs will be provided for under the current system.
This is in sharp contrast to janitors who don't have health insurance, which puts their lives and the lives of their families in danger. Under the current system, they aren't getting their needs met. So why are we focusing on people who have their needs met?
Not to mention, the way some folks think people get into feminism is all skewed. They think women are all like "I did want childcare and health insurance for my kids but then I noticed that some feminists don't shave their legs, so I'm ok with my crappy lot in life now!" But heck, most of the women in my family don't even shave their legs!
Heck, if all they had to worry about in life was that some lady across the country didn't like their lack of leg hair, they'd be singing for joy. Heck, if all they had to worry about is that some lady across the country thinks blowjobs are gross, they'd be wondering if they were in heaven.
People in my family have to deal with folks fighting in the schoolhouse, pregnant teens who haven't eaten, molested infants at the daycare, children acting sexually inappropiate in class, and on and on.
If we could help them deal with that, they'd be all for feminism. They don't care about how empowerful we are in our sports corsets.
Saturday, November 11, 2006
You are The Moon
Hope, expectation, Bright promises.
The Moon is a card of magic and mystery - when prominent you know that nothing is as it seems, particularly when it concerns relationships. All logic is thrown out the window.
The Moon is all about visions and illusions, madness, genius and poetry. This is a card that has to do with sleep, and so with both dreams and nightmares. It is a scary card in that it warns that there might be hidden enemies, tricks and falsehoods. But it should also be remembered that this is a card of great creativity, of powerful magic, primal feelings and intuition. You may be going through a time of emotional and mental trial; if you have any past mental problems, you must be vigilant in taking your medication but avoid drugs or alcohol, as abuse of either will cause them irreparable damage. This time however, can also result in great creativity, psychic powers, visions and insight. You can and should trust your intuition.
What Tarot Card are You?
Take the Test to Find Out.
Friday, November 10, 2006
Also, hentai games are pure evil.
Thursday, November 09, 2006
This lady is full of win.
I know perfectly well that desires and cravings for food can feel really strong, can feel like they are overwhelming and controlling us, but to grab a little piece of wisdom straight from "the program," feelings aren't facts. Just because we feel like we can't resist eating a particular food doesn't mean we really can't (and certainly doesn't give us any information about why we shouldn't). As Julia Penelope says, "...appealing to feelings is one way of resisting change." "I just feel that way" is an argument for nothing except doing what you want (or in this case, NOT doing what you want) without examining the way patriarchy shapes all our beliefs and desires.
I'm not sure about whether compulsive eaters can resist or not, but what she said reminded me of a connection I made while I was reading Making Face, Making Soul. I tend to resist the idea that feminism is about making people feel good because the whole emphasis on feelings sort of echoes white resistance to anti racism. The focus is always on how if we say anything, a white person's feeling will be hurt, and apparently the world will fall apart if a white person ever feels bad.
I mean, when brownfemi talks about women walking with machetes and their kids on their hips, I somehow don't get the impression that they are walking that way to have fun. I may be a privileged first worlder, but I get the impression that women in the third world are working hard against sexual assault, against women being lashed for being raped, against dirty water, against a lack of education for girls, against a whole lot of stuff that isn't about just having a big party all the time.