"What is clear to me is that many girls believe that the dynamics of oral sex reflect the power difference between boys and girls. Repeatedly I've been told how degrading it is to be submissive to a boy. That the only way that a girl can maintain a good reputation and give a boy oral sex is if she's in a committed relationship with him. Otherwise, it's usually seen as a deperate attempt to please a boy she likes but who may not like or respect her in return"- Queen Bees and Wannabes, p. 258