I'm not sure I have recovered enough to write a coherent post, but I think I can string together a couple of sentences. I think transpeople can be our friends in demolishing gender although I have no clear idea of how this could happen, but if men can become women and women can become men, I feel a sense of possibility there.

I'm all for defending boundaries and having good common horse sense as I live in TN where hamburgers don't eat people and we don't wear shoes on our hands, but really, there's no good reason to police the gender boundary anyway. We should all pick behaviors that make good sense, and discard behaviors that are dumb and don't worry about what is feminine or masculine.