There is a difference between something being 'feminine' and it being 'womanly' or like a woman. The difference to me is that a woman is an adult role. Femininity is not really an adult role as it means being less- not asking for the big porkchop, settling for being the 'power behind the throne', paying more but getting less, doing more work but getting less pay, and being all happy about it. But being a woman doesn't mean you have to be feminine. There's no rule saying that you *must* eat shit and like it just because you have labia.

I was reading about Adlerian group therapy today and they went on and on about encouragement, which can mean to give courage to people. I hope that people can find the courage to be feminists not because it sounds good, but because they really think the ideological underpinnings make sense to them, and when they are willing to do the work.