This post and comments inspired this:

Feminism is not about doing whatever the fuck you want.

Feminism is not about your pursuit of pleasure.

Feminism is not a dating service.

Feminism is not therapy.

Feminism is not a group hug.

Feminism is not about how cute you look when you're liberated.

Feminism is not about buying pink crap.

Feminism is about women's liberation. Liberation from job discrimination, unequal schooling, sexual violence, forced births, bad medical care, and all the rest.

It's not about your freedom to have fun.

It's not about your self esteem.

Folks think we can get to liberation on cotton candy.

Really, the thing is that nobody is making you be a feminist against your will. Just be advised that for many people, being a feminist is not about how we can personally have fun or how we can justify doing what we'd already do in the first place.

What's the point of this rant? You'll never see a post from me about how sitting around all day playing Ogre Battle helps the feminist cause. And how come pleasure in these debates is always conceptualized as traditionally girly crap?

It's like people haven't explored pleasure that isn't about appearance or sexual performance. I think some folks need to broaden their horizons as to what pleasure is before they say that us feminists think that they are bad girls for having pleasure.

Nothing is a more pure selfish pleasure than a good book, a good manga series or a good video game. The enjoyment is in the thing itself, not social approval. I think it is interesting the difference in discourse between men and women on beauty.

Women always make a big deal of pretending that they just happened to wake up one day and totally enjoy putting on their girl drag. Men instead are honest about their motivations. Women love it they say. Got to look hot to get the job. It makes my wang look bigger. Is it the differing power levels that make women have to act like they get no real pleasure in life except for wearing fancy clothing and doing beauty rituals?

I mean, men like to wear a well cut suit as much as anyone, but when you ask a guy about pleasure and fun, he usually lists activities like going out with the boys or watching sports- things that are enjoyable in themselves.

And get the message folks- women have had sex before you. People were having sex in backseats before my parents were born. They've been fucking all over the place since before feminism was invented. If you can fuck, don't thank feminism- thank biology.