Here's a nice article, ripped straight from the movies, implying that we women need to be desperate for a man. Really, if I was a man who was as much of a prize as folks say, worthy of marriage and long term committment, I wouldn't mind a woman who realizes that just breathing and not being an axe murderer isn't all that is required to be a husband, and possibly, a father. Folks are trying to stick a woman with anybody, and when it doesn't work out, because they simply weren't compatible, they complain she's a single mother.
I don't remember who said this, but someone said that folks want us women checked off- married, check, babies, check, without really thinking about say, whether the two people involved can really stand each other for years on end, or whether their living situations and preferences really mesh. People act like you should give a man you want to marry less scrutiny than a room mate. No, give him more scrutiny. He should be a man of integrity, decency, and a man with your same values. If you don't love him, don't marry him. If you don't like him, don't date him. If you don't want to screw him, don't hook up with him. Really, folks.