Sparklepony feminists aren't after your men- they are after feminism. By making feminism not a political movement, but a way to get attention- waaah, somebody called me not a feminist! Oh, woe is me, nobody believes that showing my ass and cootchie to all and sundry is a feminist act! you pretty much make feminism ineffective.
This annoys me because I'm the sort of woman who would rather have respect than attention. And a much larger percentage of women than we are given credit for would rather have respect. Defending the status quo is oh not an achievement. Building new ways for people to be rather than just defending the old ones- that's hard work. But that's what needs to be done.