Woah! I have vague feelings of being impressed. and also vague feelings of no, don't go away. Although mostly I am hot, and unable to unwind and relax.

At least this amusing bit of objectification will lighten the mood.

It's raining. Some guy broke a law student's nose. I don't like doing schoolwork, but it's easier now that I got a new keyboard.

If you are tempted by this ad break up with your non boyfriend.

Dear random internet people, I am favoring my left foot so no zumba today. Dear random internet people, I am saving up for various things, so I am having a free shipping sale on my site.

Scalzi on poverty.

Reserve day crazy:
etsy thread: omg, walmart!!

Penis wank.

etsy thread:showcases delayed til 3 pm est today. People freak out.

Odd thread. I guess sellers of mature art/porn are still mad.


A problem that could be solved by dumping the motherfucker I say.

Funny is delivered at Twisty's. also, pussycatdolldom is empowerful.(warning: comedian on national tv, may not be to everyone's feminist standards) Women can become empowered by getting scary letters in front of their names. that might scare away the mens, but last forever. Stripper boots and ass for days last only a short time, but education is forever.

How come us feminist blog wars don't get trailers!? I'm going to draw me a trailer!

Look! Manly soap! I want some!
etsy thread:copying.

Ugh, today is going to have to be a reserve day.

Possible racism in comments of Pandagon. Disturbing pictures in post.

Question: is this bead safe for work? Too controversial for customers or no?

Really, I think that women entering doctoral programs don't need to be told its effect on marriage or whether guys might think dr before your name is scary. If someone is that obsessed with what the booooys might think, they'd be too busy batting their eyes and giggling to study anyway, and the rest of us women will go and study even if we might not get a maaaayn.

Such tasty stupid! But I have to go to the library, so I'm putting it on the blog to keep it for now.

I don't want to work on the huge paper of doom now. So here's some wank about lesbians who love the cock. If it helps, lesbians who love the cock A LOT.

Sleepy baby shannon has one link to pandagon. Technically, when my mom let my aunt babysit us, we were in daycare. mom wishes I had had more daycare as even today I am shy and timid.

Ok, I was reading that transphobic Heart again, and then I realized that her pal Britta posted something I wanted to reply to, so you guys will have to give me a moment,ok?

Rebecca Whisnant gave a great presentation, comparing 2nd and 3rd wave feminists - 3rd wave feminism largely promotes individualism and choice, a “willful myopia to the effects of one’s choices in a broader culture of sexual dominance,” or, in the words of Jennifer Baumgardner and Amy Richards in their book Manifesta, “Feminism isn’t about the choice you make, it’s about your freedom to make that choice.” This contrasts with the prevalent 2nd wave feminist knowledge that “women are a class, sharing a common condition,” and that the fate of one woman is tied to the fate of all women, whether she likes it or not. Thus, the question is not so much “Did she choose X?” as it is “Does X further the oppression of women as a whole?” In general, 2nd wave feminists embraced responsibility for the broader results of their personal choices…whereas 3rd wave feminists are so afraid of being seen as essentialist, and are “reluctant to speak in an assumed and potentially false solidarity.” But it’s not as simple as saying any choice a woman makes is a feminist choice, so long as she freely chooses it, for that ignores the effects our choices can have on *each other*.

I'm 2.5 here. I'm not into the whole "feminism is about choices" thing because I can choose anything. I can choose to call you a cunt, I can choose to say that rape is acceptable, I can choose to do tons of shit that isn't feminist. Then again, all women don't have a common condition- poor sex working transwomen with AIDs in the third world have it way worse than I do, and have many different experiences from I. But then again, there are ways that we should be responsible for ourselves and our choices.

The truth is that no matter how much we'd like to have it otherwise, there's no such thing as a free lunch. Nobody thinks you're as special as you think you are. If you make a choice that has a negative effect on other women, such as acting like the other woman enticed the man to cheat on his own and giving all the blame to her instead of giving any blame at all to the man, and somebody feminist walks by and calls you on it? That's life!

If you are always talking about how 13 year old girls are 'fast' and somehow deserve to be catcalled and harassed by men and some feminist calls you on it? Oh woopty do! That's life!

If you're pretending that gendered behavior comes hardwired in, and wonderbras just fall from the sky and some feminist says that's not correct? You know what? Tough fucking cookies!

If you're grown enough to say that your choices are sacred, you're grown enough to take responsibility for them.

I'm putting this post by ginmar here as a bookmark so I'll remember to post a wank report.

Reading the first few words of this post makes me not want to read the comments. Piny posts on transpeople. I'm going to talk about something else that has little to do with transpeople, although I agree with the lady who wanted a trans 101 website. We all have rude and offensive questions, such as "so do you want to buy a big TV now?" or "so what was it like, having your girlhood so late?" but if we all said stupid things all the time, the smart people would never have any time to say anything smart.

Also, piny on gender. Instead of writing a brillant treatise on gender, I think I'm going to use irrelevant personal anecdotes. I'm androgynous on the inside. I like good old male identified values like not being a giant wussy, being a responsible adult, understanding that sometimes facts are important,etc. Of course, everyone sees me as a girl, as I am very short, and do not have strong body language. Then again, I must admit, if I don't know what gender you are, I assume you're a female. Also I assume everyone on etsy is a female too. Also, people seem to be happier when I'm dressed as a girl, but I don't like it.

A squicky article on 'Mandingos'- the interracial swing community. A gentleman in the street and a thug in the bedroom? Seems like that a lady in the streets and a whore in the bedrooms old mess to me. But feminism is about choices!!!! so because the men knew they were fucking for the pleasure of racist bastards, us random internet people can't be like but OMG!!!! RACIST!! I'm sure some of the guys are laughing and saying OMG, cracker!!! but that doesn't make being a racist OK.

NO ONE IS ILLEGAL, MISS SCARLETT!!!

Man, pregnant is the meanest community in the whole world. Dang, if you don't fix your cat, people want you to abort your kid?! Man, *starts crying illogically* Wank overdrive

Also, welcome to my world where english is sometimes spoken is slightly too heavy for chicklit. Chicklit requires a happy ending, a good splash of comedy, and much less of this whole searching for meaning pathos, and a good man won't make you happy stuff. So my verdict- a regular novel in chicklit semi trade dress. That doesn't mean it's a bad novel, it's just not a good example of the genre.

etsy thread: etsy commercial.

SUPERBAD! WRONG!!

More on child dead from overdose. Always adhere to ethical standards, people!

Also, dear internet people, should I get counselor's insurance?

Poor skills makes stupidfree, giving me an opportunity to note that reverse classism doesn't exist. Some idiot is like my cleaning lady told me that you can polish silver with a toothbrush! I can see why poor people might resent folks with cleaning ladies(we don't even have a cleaning lady!) waltzing in and trying to tell them about the super special tip she learned(and seriously, who didn't know this superspecial tip?). Not to mention, some poor people use the internet at the library.

But back to my main point: Reverse classism doesn't exist. I know it's sad that people online don't think that your tips from your cleaning lady are wonderful and amazing, bu t the truth is that that is more an issue for you to discuss with your friends or a mental health professional than it is a systematic way that the poor are keeping us down.

There is room for good old whinging and moaning, but not everything rises to the level of oppression. Also, there's a difference between poor and broke. Poor is when anything goes wrong, whether it's a speeding ticket or anything, you're in danger of having your lights cut off, being homeless, your kid going hungry. Broke is when you have a bit of a cushion. You get a speeding ticket? Beg your parents for cash. Higher utility bills than usual? Cut down on the netflix. Holidays coming up? Sell on ebay.

Broke is having options. Poor is not having options. It's in that I think the oppression lies.

Are you down with the P.C.C.? The breakdown of the nation-state. Feminist makes stupid free, with typical headdeskery. It's the oppression olympics!!

Etsy post: the dos and don'ts of etsy.

If you have a classroom activity in which you list all the minority groups you an think of and then apply social distance numbers to them and then think up stereotypes, always have it be the rating of the average (fill in the blank). That way white whining will be muted. Our class found that nobody likes Arabs or Muslims(my group said nobody likes Latinos), and that people all think that transgendered folks are sex workers, bisexuals are strippers and Jamaicans are drug dealers. Although, in our group, African Americans were clerical workers, Africans either were hair braiders or doctors, so I don't see where we got the Jamaician from in our class...

Question for the imaginary audience: should I take off the lazy links tag since every post is a links post?

There is a difference between something being 'feminine' and it being 'womanly' or like a woman. The difference to me is that a woman is an adult role. Femininity is not really an adult role as it means being less- not asking for the big porkchop, settling for being the 'power behind the throne', paying more but getting less, doing more work but getting less pay, and being all happy about it. But being a woman doesn't mean you have to be feminine. There's no rule saying that you *must* eat shit and like it just because you have labia.

I was reading about Adlerian group therapy today and they went on and on about encouragement, which can mean to give courage to people. I hope that people can find the courage to be feminists not because it sounds good, but because they really think the ideological underpinnings make sense to them, and when they are willing to do the work.

Some morning bits and pieces: modest clothing that I would actually wear. Just only in winter. Except for the layering shell. I need some more of those- they work great with anything. Also, huh!? Friends of stupidfree only post about the former huhness. And...I am not my cock. Guys have been able to control themselves around me when I was showing side NIPPLE, so your excuses are all invalid, pervy guys!!

Etsy thread: buying to make a sale.

Why I don't go to feminist often: apparently, quiznos sandwich commercials are really horridly sexist. Because ladies who really love meat filled sandwiches are holding them down. Also, feminist flamewar- someone says something racist, and they're off! I agree with the person who says that we shouldn't not fight against racism and sexism because other people might not like it.

Feministe makes OTF wank! With a bit of headdeskery about bad feminists.

Etsy thread of the day: hair splinters. Ugh, I'm going to puke!!

I'm going to point out stupid and postpone my mortgage!post to cheer myself up. Apparently, some random lady got engaged, giving this guy major 'PTSD' Man, dude, I don't even get PTSD from reading in my career book about how 90% of young adults are expected to get married(I'm also postponing my divvying up the housework post) and reading in National Geographic that women east of the Mississppi are more likely to be in huge cities with tons of single women and like two single men. Let me tell you internet, that gave me slight psychological damage, but not an actual intense mental disorder.

Also, rape wank.(don't read this, spotted elephant!!!) Inside the wank is the fact that your kink is not OK. Also, LOL, non sexual fetish(top picture not safe for work or life or anything, scroll past so that your retinas don't fall out) Because tattooing yourself with a picture of a baby animal peeing itself is totally a good idea. Yea really.

Also, there's a long thread on femininity at Twisty's. I'm not a fan of femininity as I tend to be the sort of person who wants to get the best of everything. I want the best life role,the most fun, the tastiest food.