I love this post because it starts with a good ol' story with lots of action and violence, and women triumphing against assholes, and ends up with a nice reflection on rape culture.

I was on the internet as usual, and saw this post about antidepressants. and so I decided to categorize the sort of people who would tell angel she doesn't need her pills or whatever.

I call them the "look at me, I'm a sanctimonious asshole" group or the senior sanctimony club for short. Core beliefs:

1)People are all the same. If I can work 80 hours a week, you can too.
2)Everything is caused by being a bad person. Sleep 12 hours a day? The only reason can be that you are lazy.
3)Although this only applies to other people; if people think you're a dick, they are 'immature'
4)Belief that there is too much kindness and sympathy in the world. They really believe that no one has ever told their target about their personal shortcomings, and if they were enlightened, they'd totally improve.
5)Belief that no one is ever trying and failing- no amount of evidence will change this belief.
6)Belief that you can do anything you put your mind to- of course, this is very funny- now a sensible person would realize, for example, for every paraplegic that ran a marathon, there are a million that haven't, or for every person who pulled themselves up by the bootstraps, there's a million walking around with fucked up boots... but not these folks.
7)there are children starving in Africa, so lactose intolerance is bullshit- i.e. no pain is valid if there's something worse in the world.

I helped profbw be awesome on the internet!

Best post ever Really, most people aren't really out to ruin your life by pretending that they can't get out of bed due to depression. They aren't sitting around thinking up ways to annoy you by crying or not being happy. Really normal folks, they aren't.

Is it really OK to talk like this in the workplace? I'm also against yelling at your coworkers while standing on top of desks.

The desk standing story.

I still think that the breast feeding is better than a screaming kid. I can ignore the breastfeeding but not the crying.

"Like every other man I knew, my dad hated all black people and loved Bill Cosby"- Haven Kimmel, She Got Up Off the Couch, p. 228.

A really funny story about an ignorant white little girl, her racist family, and some tacky ass black people[gold toilets?! all black couches?! even with the 70s being the setting, I can't forgive that!] follows.

new orleans fight on the interwebs.

Kwanzaa declared nonreligious.

Hey, I got linked on a blog! It's almost as good of a present as my new DS.

Also, demeaning volunteer work for public housing residents.

worst review ever.

A long time ago, a rabbi said that those who are last will be first. I think he meant those who are last in your hearts will be first in heaven. The single mother who buys hot chips for her kids with food stamps, the illegal immigrant who processed your christmas turkey, and all whose brave faces have collapsed from the strains of modern life.

The last will be first unconditionally- there will not be a case worker determining eligibility for grace. Your old junker won't count against you- your waning and waxing energy won't be the reason why you do not receive grace.

In heaven, there's no court of the worthier than you to judge if your place should go to those who deserve it more. In heaven, there's no deserve. When you're at the end of your rope, heaven throws you one without giving you an audit of whether you measure up.

The truth is that heaven can be earth if we love the neighbors we have and who they are today. No one can deserve the mercy and grace of others- they are only to be given freely.

I like the fact that I don't go around making up convuluted reasons why I think 14 year olds should have access to incest porn. I just say- wtf? just no.

The whiniest white man in the world illustrates why I don't believe in personal responsibility. If you're poor and black, you are the sole cause of all government waste because you bought some hot chips with your food stamps, but for this white guy, he gets to say "Oh, it's all black people's fault". Dude, ultimately, this is your responsibility. Be as harsh on yourself as you are on others.

Kwanzaa flap.

I can see why these folks are freaking out. With so many people still in trailers and still underserved, people's trust in the government working for them and not for rich people is battered.

Possible West Memphis council boycott. This is connected to the story of a cop killing a kid and then whining about how there's a racial boundary. People upset about the death of a child aren't drawing a racial boundary- the boundary was already there, and when you don't understand that we see our children as as precious as yours, you build the wall higher and higher. Really white folks, try to understand how we feel. When you kill a child, we don't like that. We don't think that it's acceptable- the threshold for 'OK to kill a kid" is much higher- for example "they had a toy gun" or "they were outside at night" are not in fact considered acceptable reasons to kill a child. The reason we're not as mad at thugs is because they are outside the law- they aren't supposed to protect us. When thugs do something wrong, at least they'll be locked up, as they deserve. This guy is running free, gets a higher paying job,etc. Thugs can't vote, they have to go to jail, their own mamas are mad at them...


Also, whiny white guy needs to build a bridge and get over it.

A nice post reminding us all that girl babies do not come in a nice little box loving pink, makeup, and doing housework and all boy babies do not come in a nice little box loving sports. These roles need to be policed constantly. For example, I was working and this little boy, around 9, starts playing with dolls and all that, he only stopped after investigating his programming he decided it 'didn't look right'. It's not that shiny shoes and changable clothes are automatically unloved by boys, and that baby girls wouldn't love the truck for the 'built different' boys, but there's a constant bombardment of "if you're a girl, be this", " if you're a boy, be that". For some people it'll never take, though. I'll never understand why I'm supposed to be obsessed with shoes.

Thank you Midsouth Reads for donating Making Money to the library. We never get any Terry Prachett novels out here in this part of Memphis.

I don't get what the big deal is if some girl you don't even know got knocked up. Be glad you're not popping babies out your cootchie.


random rants: don't let your 8 year old watch Family Guy. Also, why would you let a kid get their nails done professionally? Let them roll with some Bonnie Bell if you must.

I think it's mean to adopt a kid and then just randomly give them back.

Dear entire internet, I was reading Anything We Love Can Be Saved and my soul was healed.

White person makes sense in public. Others are angered.

Local library donates books to prisons. Better literacy I believe is the path out of petty thievery and other crimes.

This link is posted just to show that there really was a club named the Black Tail Shake Joint.

There's some debate over whether the legalization of prostitution really worked as well as people think it does. *as for me, I am suspicious of the idea that all the prostitutes ran down there saying "yay, I want to sell some tail!"

I've decided after reading the defense lawyer's statement that law abiding means 'white'. Also, wtf on the secret native folk remedy mess he made up. Really, why don't you just say your clients are guilty as sin if you gotta dig all the way to the 1800s and shit with your mythology?

Stupid gold. More stupid gold. Although I don't agree with calling her a slut. That's mean to hard working sluts who use condoms and are responsible.

For the win.

They say contraceptives would save the lives of many people, as pediatric AIDs is spread from mother to child. Antiretroviral drugs also can save the lives of many.

Strip club workers offer sex to officers. Our strip clubs seem to be a bit out of control, maybe.

Men arrested for sex trafficking. I don't get the comments on the story- why are some Mexican immigrants hanging around Autozone more worthy of comment than the horror of rape and the immorality of buying young girls for sex? I say racism.

some slight feminism in this article.

Escort rant snagged from Pandagon. I have nothing useful to say, and I have to admit the first thing I thought of is "she could get awesome sugar scrubs on etsy". This is why I don't talk much anymore.

Another pandagon post. I might have had thoughts on this, but maybe not. I test well, and I can recite parts of books by rote, but that doesn't make me a better person.

I don't think illegal immigrants get free health care.

In celebration of my last exam, I've been playing Carrie the Caregiver 2, and while I'm glad that lunch is so much easier than shapes[it's hard for me to chain shapes since I can never remember which kids take triangles second or third, but the food is all the same so it's easier to chain], I'm wondering why oh why does Carrie get these horrible jobs? First, she gets a job as a baby poop wiper, now she's stuck delivering shapes to toddlers. Low paid work- it's super fun.

I've gotten up to writing now. I like the reprise of the bonus for clipping the right color paper to the right hook. I wonder if the bonus hearts on the desk are too cheap as in the first game, hearts only restored one heart, not all of them. I guess it's difficult for a multi audience game to achieve game balance.

My brother just called, who is Memphis Police Officer. He said let everyone know that Memphis Police Department received an alert this morning from a reliable source that a Gang Initiation is starting today and will be going until the end of December. The gangs are instructed to ask someone for directions and then shoot them. He says they seem to be targeting women.



Everyone pass the word, and be <> careful.


an amusing bit of hysteria building. I enjoy the locality specific name changes in this email, and the fact that the current month is in fact in evidence. If it wasn't changed around, man, no one would believe this! Of course, snopes.

Some fucked up shit. I hate maritial rape.

You know, when I first heard of Terry Prachett's diagnosis of Alzheimers, I was tempted to yell NOOOOOOO!!!!!! but now reading his words, his amazing sense of humor gives me comfort. The sad news for fans everywhere is coming, but maybe it's not quite the end yet.

It seems that people in pervy subcultures aren't magically immune to societal bullcrap! Who knew?

Also, BDSMers fall prey to a geek social fallacy. Listed here.

Also, I was going to show you all an article about Australian sex workers having to pay high fees to be legal, but I can't remember where I found it. Any help?

I think the idea that a father solves everything that Monchel mocks here is based on the whole every family for itself paradigm. Under this view, a good coach, a uncle that always looked out for you, or even a friendly principal can't undo the 'damage' that not having a daddy 'causes' because the family is seen as a unit unto itself- separate from the community and society. But the thing that people who say this forget is that sometimes folks are better off alone. If he's putting his hands on you or getting drunk and not holding a job- later for him. I think it's more damaging to hold on to a bad man just to have one, than to say bye bye. I think kids need many different adults in their lives. Mama, and even Daddy, can't do it alone. That's too much pressure for anyone. Our whole communities need to be raising children, even us childfree people need to be raising them.

God this is messed up! I hate female misogynists! Who would think a little kid would agree to sex with 9 men?

I was going to post about justice and jail and sex workers and all that sort of thing, but then I saw this and thought "drink. needed. now"

No journal trolling, but look at this:

I feel so bad for Peanut. I don't know what to do. That whore has effectively ruined his life. I hope she miscarries. I hope she gets raped and beaten to death and then raped again.
Fucking come-gargling street whore.

Misogyny copied and pasted for your reading displeasure! from stupidfree. A lady falls preggers, and this person wants all sorts of horrible things to happen to her. That's just woman hating!

Abusive men have been known to tamper with women's birth control. But the whole hysteria about 'oopsing' seems to be focused on those evil evil women making baaaaaybees with the poor poor men who have to pay omgchildsupport.

Iikya and piny are back somehow. I have nothing useful to say, except for I do like having flat breasts..uh...once bell hooks said something about growing up for girls is leaving the circle of power. I don't want to leave 'childish' things such as comic books and video games behind for well...mopping the god damn floor and wearing uncomfortable clothing. I like the possibility of androgyny- I often want to cut my hair, wear baggy clothes and the like. Man, I wish I made sense! Our society's symbolism is large breasts=femininity and sexuality=me rambling about my titays. If you have been annoyed by my ramblings, send your hate mail to the comment box below.

Here's an analysis about racism, sexism, and prostitutes.

I only just now saw this.

Don't throw shit at transfolk. Somehow I feel like some people need to be shot in the face. Is that irrational?

The costumes are my favorite bit.

People are worried about dangerous pesticides being used in the US. An astute misogynist found this, and was shocked by the use of dangerous chemicals.

I really love this article- especially the points about how women's sexuality is seen as being only wanting to be looked at or fucked. Even slashers are seen as deviant in our society, so deeply ingrained is the idea that women don't have their own sexualities.

If you could raise $5000 to help women, would you spend it on arguing about cute panties or amazing organizations?

Don't you want to give money to the Exchange Club? or Lebonheur? I'm not cross eyed anymore thanks to them. Modest Needs? And remember to give your canned goods to the food bank!

Food banks have bare cupboards.

about porn- the thing is that I don't see so many people trying to say that working 15 hours a day in a hundred degree weather and then being raped by your asshole boss is glamorous and feminist. Also, porn is very visible. I go on facebook- and what's posted? old women's reactions to two girls, 1 cup. We also don't see as much competition among women to say "I'm cool with farm workers dying from pesticide use". Also, porn is a very female centered issue with men at the margins- and farm workers- to me, while women are specially oppressed in farm work- it's more of a class/global status of your country problem rather than a 'pure' women's issue. - why porn gets more attention than farm work.

I'm glad that others have the energy to school people.

This story makes me so mad! The first one I mean- I haven't heard the second one yet.

I love folks who can write more than a sentence.

Many women in Europe are against prostitution, including some survivors. Note: the story of the US woman who worked in the Nevada brothels, I recommend you pay special attention to.

A discussion about this.

Maybe you should learn something about health care or something.

More childfree stupid. Only a very few actual feminists believe that you must support all women's choices ever. And mostly, we laugh at them. Also, I wonder how these really dodgy get rich quick schemes work. I mean seriously, why not just work 10 hours a week if you want $400 a month instead of having a kid that means you have to feed it in the middle of the night? I mean, whose first choice for money would be "I'm going to go through nine months of uncomfortable stuff like puking and then I'm going to go years without sleep"? *boggles*

apparently a whole bunch of wacky stuff is happening in the feminist blogosphere but whatever it is, it seems really stressful.

Credit card rip offs. A long time ago, I was thinking about how the Bush plan to help the subprime mortgage crisis probably won't help people of color, but I don't remember where I was going with that. Anyway, I hope those banks stop ripping people off.

The sort of Christmas present that ruined Christmas.

I don't know why but this case makes my heart hurt.

Also, I was listening to the radio, and Obama comes on saying something about not deputizing american citizens in response to some question about folks reporting illegal immigrants, and I had this scary image of crazed people rounding up anyone who looks vaguely hispanic. Hilliary said that people are freaking out about immigrantion because of the economy. Maybe she's right. You don't get all het up about some Hispanic guy taking 'your' 2 dollar an hour fruit picking job when times are good.

Look at this depressing cps story.

Mocking stupid white people: hopefully improving the world one LOL at a time. I don't understand people who are monogamous with poly partners. I can see both people being poly, or both being mono, but the mix seems weird. It seems here as if this guy is frisking around, and she's not "wow, fuck those chicks! wooo!" but resentful instead ;_; ew, use a condom!

Crazy childfree are mocked. With extra sexist stupid. Really folks, every teenage girl that steals a book isn't going around with the entire school, and even if she was,it has nothing to do with anything else. That's why I say we need women to build lives outside of their sexualities. Otherwise you end up calling little girls sluts because you think they are competing with you on the only thing you think you have. If you have a life, you have the confidence to step aside and let kids develop breasts, be spoiled brats, wear the styles of the day[within reason- teens are still kids]. You're not fighting to the death to be the fairest one of all- because that's not all that matters.

Genocide themed baked goods? Not OK.

My brain is not very good today, but I think I have recovered enough from hell month, to appreciate this post.

I may start talking about serious subjects sometime soon. You'll hear a lot less about how Fashion Craze has really shitty graphics, and that Fashion Fits is a lot more fun.