I never got Valentine's Day. A day celebrating love, but not real love? What's the point of that? I'm sorry, but if you need trinkets and chocolate to celebrate your love, you don't really love each other, you know? Real love, well, I know about it as much as anyone, but in my opinion, it's not cheap. You can't buy it with trinkets. It is paid for with years of hope and despair, of times being supported and times supporting. You don't have to flash it about or try to define yourself by it. It's not really an emotion people get at my age, it seems. It takes a long time to develop, and many people don't know what to do about getting it.

The other problem is that many single people have bought into the idea that the only real love involves bumping uglies. The ridiculous idea that all their loving friends, their devoted parents, etc, don't mean anything if they don't have a hand to hold during some over priced couples activity. Valentine's Day is certainly a good marketing ploy. It makes everyone feel insecure.

Singles feel they are losers without this fake 'love' , and couples wonder if the other person loves them 'enough'. All of this causes massive spending which makes companies happy. However, I say to everyone,(isn't it nice to have the luxury of presumption?) don't set your sights on just or even just limit yourself to this socially constructed idea of 'romantic love'.

Find something real to love. It doesn't even have to be a person. Just don't waste your life wishing after something cheap. It's not easy to just reject the idea, and others may try to put you down for even thinking of anything beyond what is on TV. But these people will be miserable after their 2nd and third divorces, so screw them.

Oh and here'sa funny link about this counterfeit love, and another celebreting the irony of this day.