EBrown asks with the negativity coming out of the public mouth pieces of Blacks, why aren't we more despairing? Because seriously, it's like listening to white folk. They would look at my family and be like "Your cousin got 4 kids, and no husband. Your other cousin nearly got fired off substitute teaching for checking a kid. Your brothers don't have big fancy jobs in offices" and never see how much fun we have playing guitar and singing or recounting my cousin with the 4 kids' kids' adventures. They've never seen my cousin getting married in Jamaica or my aunt being sent to San Francisco by her kids. They can't see the positives because they choose not to, but we do choose to see them, and that makes all the difference.